I have just finished a session with a top European Ski instructor - who has had a mismanaged thinking about whether or not they can progress to the next level of their career path and pass the next exam. I was trying to explain the difference between rehearsing success and rehearsing failure. I asked what her thoughts are when she is at the top of the slope looking down at the piste and the gates... her first though would have been "touch wood" but as we have done a couple of sessions she stopped herself saying it !! What does that say about you and how much responsibility YOU take for your life and its outcomes if you put the result of a tough skiing exam down to whether or not you had touched wood - an inanimate plank or similar. It sounds ridiculous doesnt it but thats what many people do:-) Crossing your fingers is just as bad!! Why?
Because at the moment you touch wood or cross your fingers its the same as you saying " Im taking no responsibility for this outcome - I am putting all of my faith in someone or something else" and if it works out then its not down to me and if it doesnt then its not my responsibility either. If you want something to happen in your life firstly think about what outcome you want and then secondly take steps to MAKE it happen.. That is what we call having an Internal Locus of Control or taking responsibility for life and its outcomes.
You need to not rely on luck, fate, chance, and paranormal beliefs. Dont put all of your faith for things happening in other people and start to have belief in your own abilities. The work that I do with THRIVE can put YOU back in control of YOUR life - show you how to become calm and relaxed rather than anxious and stresses. The beauty is that if you are willing to put some effort into managing your thinking better than it is in fact quite easy.
Call me now on 01234 313186 or email me on greg.coyne@purehypno.com to take that first step to getting control back in YOUR life.
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